If she returns all her overdue library books, our youngest daughter will be graduating after 13 years in the Fairfield school district. No more conferences, no more bake sales, PTA stuff, etc. It will be bittersweet. The school system has done its part. We tried our best but she could use a little more. My wife Laura and I wanted to offer her advice on college and life beyond, but it’s been about two years since she listened to us. So we thought she may listen to other people in the family.

I have a niece, Jocelyn, who is also graduating, in Maryland. She accepts advice just as well as our daughter.

This is the second in a three-part series for both of them. The first bit was from my oldest daughter and a friend about how to navigate college. The third will be from older family members looking back on long successful lives.

This is from the other end — advice from Julia and Jocelyn’s cousins ages 5 to 12 and just starting off. Their names are Quinn, Kane, Asfaw, Julian, and Lily. They have advice to spare. This is their advice for college and beyond:

Personal hygiene

Quinn:

Wear cologne

Wear deodorant

Wear clean clothes

Take a shower every day

Lily:

Brush your teeth even though your parents are not telling you to

Safety

Lily:

Don’t crash your car because it would break and be expensive

Kane:

Don’t drive your car in the bike lane

Be safe

Don’t pet wild animals because you might get rabies

Don’t do stupid stuff

How to pick a college

Lily:

Pick a college with a water fountain

Pick a college that you can live with your parents

Pick a college with a tiger mascot

Pick the college that has the most computers

Kane:

Pick a college with a vending machine

Pick a college that you can learn about every job

Pick a college your friends go to

Julian:

Look for a lot of Pokémon at the front entrance and all around for Pokémon Go

How to behave in college

Quinn:

Call and tell your parents you love them

Don’t stay up too late

Don’t go to too many parties

Kane:

Learn to make pancakes

Don’t be weird

Asfaw:

Do your homework

Have fun, but learn as well

Julian:

Don’t talk to strangers

Arrive home by 7:50 p.m.

Adulthood

Lily:

Try to live in the forest so you can see lots of animals like rabbits

Don’t have a TV so you can enjoy the outside

Get a driver’s license

Kane:

Get a good job

Get a house, not an apartment

Stay active

We would like to thank the Fairfield School district for helping to get both our children up and out. Mill Hill School, Tomlinson Middle School and Fairfield Ludlow High School; Julia also went to the Aquaculture Program in Bridgeport.

Lily and Julian offered this extra bit of advice Lily thought about the parents, as the children leave the nest. “Your parents will think ‘finally freedom’” and Julian thought of the graduates and their long term success, when he said “if you live with me you can get this type of advice every day.”

Julian, we could all use your advice.

Congratulations to Jocelyn, Julia and the Class of 2017. Learn to make Pancakes, and don’t do stupid stuff.

Thomas Lawlor lives in Southport with his wife and two daughters. His column appears every other Friday. He can be reached by email at Tlawlor@

mcommunications.com.